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There seems to be a commonplace theme on OnlyFans these days. It’s known as “findom”. If you don’t know what it is, we’ll further explain it later on.
OnlyFans is a great way to make money online. But this phenomenon known as “findom” seems like the popular thing to do for a handful of content creators on the platform. If you are someone who is not into relationships that require a “sub” or a “dom” (if you know, you know), then this article is not for you.
We’ll dive into the definition of “findom” and how it works. We’ll also talk about how it’s incorporated on platforms like OnlyFans. With that said, let’s get started.
What is findom?
Findom is a shorthand word for “financial domination”. While the words themselves have different meanings, we’ll be looking at it from an angle where there may contain some sexual context. Specifically, we’ll be talking about the terms that are used in the BDSM community like dom and sub.
For those who may not be aware of these terms, let’s quickly definite them:
Dom: This is short for domination. This is a person who plays the “power role” in the dom/sub relationship. To make it a bit more self-explanatory, they are positioned as the authority or superior to the submissive in the relationship.
What they tell the sub in the relationship, the latter does. There are other terms to describe the dom (like Alpha).
Sub: Short for submissive. Again, the definition may sound self-explanatory. You are in a subordinate role (notice the prefix in the word “subordinate). You are under the authority of the dom in the relationship.
The alternate term for a sub is the beta (opposite of alpha). In findom, the sub also has similar terms that further describe their role. They are known as either paypigs, slave, wallet slave, and other relevant terms.
What you’ll also notice is that it follows a similar concept to where there is a sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship (where a rich man uses money to buy gifts or provide financial support to a woman who is much younger than them). But, there are some distinctions between that relationship and findom.
For example, the sugar daddy in the relationship can have the power to cut off any kind of financial access and terminate it at any given time. There is no sub/dom aspect to sugar daddy/baby relationships. With that said, let’s dive into how it works.
How does findom work?
At this point, you are probably aware of the concept. The sub pays the dom and it’s rinse and repeat. But we’ll go a bit more in-depth about how it works.
Typically for sub/dom relationships, things can get extreme in terms of satisfying their sexual needs. Typically, BDSM is likely used in sub/dom relationships. For example, a sub will wear a collar as customary attire that indicates that they are submissive to someone.
A dom can also request a task to be performed by the sub. If the sub does not comply, the dom may inflict some kind of pain as a way to “punish” them. If you have a general awareness and understanding of what BDSM is, you might know where it goes from here.
Thanks to online platforms, it’s not always like that. OnlyFans and other platforms that allow adult content on their sites are also breeding grounds for what might be considered non-contact (physical) findom. Since content creators can make money on the platform, it gives them the advantage to leverage their earnings as a “dom”.
In this kind of sub/dom relationship, the dom demands things that the sub must provide. The dom can request tribute in the forms of money or gifts. It would be the sub’s responsibility to procure what the dom wants.
On most online platforms where these findom relationships exist, the dom in the relationship will leverage the power of the Amazon Wishlist. The sub will purchase an item for their dom and it will be sent to the latter. Obviously, the sub pays.
These items can be expensive in price. But for the sub, if they have the financial means to do so, they will buy whatever item that the dom wants. There are plenty of items that doms would add to the wishlist.
What makes this different from BDSM is the dom can possess some kind of psychological power that would be strong enough for their sub to act. Plus, the dom and the sub will never meet face to face. So the psychological humiliation aspect of BDSM is more prevalent in findom.
For example, the dom will “tease” the sub with sexual contexts. Plus, they can dress up like they are about ready to give their sub the “show of a lifetime”. Sometimes they follow through with it, sometimes they don’t.
When the sub pays the tribute to the dom (be it money or otherwise), they are likely getting nothing in return. To dive into the psychology of the sub, they pay this tribute every time with the assumption of getting something in return. Some may get the message and feel stupid about it while others will remain oblivious and the cycle continues.
For example, the dom could “promise” the sub something in a sexual nature if the latter pays the tribute. The sub follows through as expected. From there, the dom can either follow through as planned and leave a little bit more to the imagination for more “tribute” or never reciprocate.
Also, the sub may also take some measures that may not seem like a good idea to even someone with any iota of common sense. They may send their complete financial information to the dom, which will grant them access. At a time where security and safety are a must for bank accounts, this can be a really big mistake that can cause some kind of psychological harm to the sub.
What’s surprising to say the least is that most of these “subs” measure their self-worth based on money. The more they have, the better they feel about themselves. Likewise, if they have less they will feel like they are unworthy.
Some say that subs in findom typically have low self-esteem issues. So they are used to being humiliated, bullied, and ridiculed regularly. Therefore, findom is more of an “escape hatch” from what they’ve dealt with.
Findom and confidence
Findom is not for everyone, because a lot of the success of findom comes with having confidence, and being happy bossing people around. Some people are naturally shy, especially when creating adult content, and can struggle to adapt to the findom persona.
If that feels like you, then don’t worry. It doesn’t mean that findom is closed off to you permanently. You may instead just need to look at alternative options for creating adult content until you feel more comfortable, and then you can start to adapt your profile to more of a findom niche.
You could even think outside the box and look at things such as acting classes. You’re not going to learn how to be a dom – those would be some weird acting classes – you’re just learning about acting and being more bold. You can then transfer these skills into your dom personality.
Findom and OnlyFans: Tips to know about
If you plan on creating an OnlyFans with content that will center around findom, then you have found a platform that will give you the opportunity to establish a sub/dom relationship without the physical contact or the usual BDSM stuff. While it is a practice that is frowned upon by most, it technically is legal. Let’s dive into some tips that may help you achieve success on OnlyFans as the dom in the “findom” relationship:
1. Maintain anonymity
This should be the number one rule in the rules of online findom. It never is a good idea to use your real name or show your face if you intend to be the dom in an online findom relationship. And we say that for obvious reasons.
Without spoiling the next tip, there are ways that you can make money by still remaining anonymous and never showing your face at all. Plus, if you are in a relationship where you’ll be making money from your “subs” (figuratively and literally), it may not be wise to reveal the real you as people will recognize you and may know things that you don’t want others to be aware of.
2. Use your body to “tease”
What you’ll notice in most findom relationships is that the dom has the charm and power to “tease” you. The only difference is that they use parts of their body that may arouse the person in question. As long as your body is aesthetically pleasing and satisfying enough to someone who may be attracted to such a body type, you’ll be able to use it to your advantage.
Of course, you can use that to get your “subs” to pay under the assumption that you’d reveal more of the goods. However, you can reveal a bit or give nothing in return. But your body will play a huge role in findom.
3. Do not neglect the Amazon wishlist feature
Circling back to our “Findom Rule Book” idea, if staying anonymous was “Rule #1”, then this tip should be the second rule. What is great about OnlyFans is that you can be able to use your page as a way to direct your subscribers to your Amazon wishlist. From there, you can be able to receive things you need in order to produce more OnlyFans content without paying a single thing.
You can also update this at any time if you need someone to buy you an item you desire. Keep in mind though, there are some “subs” who cannot afford it. But there might be a few that will.
4. Refrain from acquiring financial information
As mentioned before, there are some findom relationships where the sub would risk giving out vital information like their bank account to a dom. If you are an OnlyFans content creator, this is a boundary that you should never cross. Plus, it can also raise suspicions since it would be strange that someone would add a name of someone they never met to their bank account.
Not to mention, it will also breach the rule of anonymity since banks will require you to use your real name for security purposes. So the idea of “controlling someone’s bank account” is thrown out the window. You make more than enough on OnlyFans from other subs alone.
Findom & OnlyFans policies
It’s really important to note that findom is not a niche to be entered lightly. It is a controversial niche, and one that has some really dangerous ground that you need to be able to navigate.
Officially, OnlyFans’ policies prohibit any content that depicts non-consensual behavior, so obviously things like non-consensual sexual activity. However financial coercion can also fall into this category, as can any content that glorifies blackmail or forced financial domination.
OnlyFans also prohibits content that would be considered to be financial exploitation, including demanding payment for content under the threat of retaliation.
In short, you need to be extremely careful that you take your ‘dom’ role in the right direction, and that while teasing and mocking your subs is acceptable, saying anything which could be interpreted as harmful to them could get you kicked off OnlyFans, if the sub chooses to report you.
This could include language which you consider to be playful. You might think that you’re just living up to the role, but if your subscribers feel like you’re being too harsh, and you’re not playing nice, they may report you and you could end up losing access to a profile that you’ve poured thousands of hours into. And you won’t get it back.
One of the ways around this is to draft up an agreement that you host on your profile, making clear what your boundaries are and that anyone subscribing to you adheres to your behavior.
This doesn’t give you free rein, and if you’re reported then OnlyFans can still find against you since you can’t just decide to set up your own contract in contradiction to OnlyFans’ own rules, but it can help to set expectations with your subscribers and reduce the risk of them reporting you at all.
Then you just need to make sure you stick to those limits. If someone starts to ask you to treat them more harshly, then you may be able to push boundaries, but always with messages recorded so that you have evidence that you were fulfilling the wishes of the subscriber.
And even then, it’s best to refuse to push things too far, as you can still lose your profile if OnlyFans believes you have broken the terms of service that you agreed to with them.
Findom is not something to take lightly, so make sure you understand how far to push things.
Findom and responsibility
This is a sketchy area, but you need to think about your own responsibilities as a findom content creator as well.
That’s because findom is one of the worst niches for exploiting addictive personalities. If you’re good at your job and you create findom content that is popular, there is a high risk of attracting people who may spend thousands of dollars with you.
And there’s a good chance that they can’t afford to do that.
Let’s be absolutely clear, you have no contractual obligation to block someone from spending money with you. The hard responsibility always lies with the subscriber who is choosing to spend their money, even if their decision-making ability is compromised by their addictive personality.
The secondary party to ‘blame’ would be OnlyFans for allowing users to spend that much money as well.
Yet, while you may not have formal responsibility for someone becoming addicted to you and your content, you need to think about your moral responsibility and where your conscience lies.
Again, you have the freedom to make that decision yourself. If someone wants to keep sending you money then you don’t need to refuse it. That is completely up to you.
But if you’re concerned about feelings of guilt then you may want to put some checks in place. This is a delicate balance, because if you start to break the role of ‘dom’ and ask for reassurance, you can spoil the persona.
At the same time, you may feel more comfortable just knowing that you have something written into your profile that reminds people of their own responsibilities with their money, and to make sure they don’t become addicted.
You could even get playful with it – say that you know you’re someone that people can easily get addicted to, because of how worthy you are, but that they need to make sure they’re comfortable spoiling you as much as you deserve to be spoiled.
That way, you’re weaving it into your dom personality, but giving them an out if they start to worry that they’re spending too much.
Frequently Asked Questions
The following is a list of frequently asked questions that center around the topic of OnlyFans and findom. This section should be used as a handy guide so you have a deeper understanding of how the two work together. These are the following questions:
Is OnlyFans for “simps”?
OnlyFans subscribers have been branded as “simps” by those online. However, an OnlyFans subscriber is free to choose who they follow (and eventually subscribe to). Some are called “simps” because they are paying money to OnlyFans content creators (especially those who practice findom).
Can OnlyFans be anonymous?
The good news, it can be anonymous. Especially if you use an OnlyFans account for findom purposes. This way, you can use your body instead of showing your face. Furthermore, you can also use a stage name that can be considered fitting for a dom.
How much money can you make on OnlyFans?
Depending on the prices you set for subscriptions, standalone content, and tips you receive you can make plenty of money. In fact, the average content creator on OnlyFans with a solid following can make $3,000 a month or more.
However, it can vary from one content creator to the next. Plus, at least one to five percent of followers eventually become paid subscribers.
Can you show your face on OnlyFans?
You have the option to do so. However, it’s up to you as to whether or not if you want to. In findom relationships, it won’t be necessary. You may have parts of your body that may be pleasing enough to the eyes to a point where your face may not even matter.
Can I use a fake name on OnlyFans?
Absolutely. As mentioned before in this guide, if you are into findom it would be wise to come up with a fake name in order to maintain anonymity.
Are you allowed to create findom content on OnlyFans?
Findom content is permitted on OnlyFans but it is one of the more heavily regulated niches. You have to make sure you are not exploiting people, which is a tricky line to walk with findom content. Never threaten harm or retaliation for your subs if they don't pay you - keep things fun, and make sure you set out boundaries on your profile so that your subs know what to expect.
While there are those who frown upon it, findom has actually grown in popularity over the years. Especially on platforms like OnlyFans. Yes, there is a unique group of people who desire sub/dom relationships. And it can be done without even the slightest bit of contact or those BDSM acts that can really leave a mark.
If findom is a good idea for you to achieve success on OnlyFans, then go for it. You’ll never know who will be your first “sub” (figuratively or literally).